Tiffany on Everything

The Sometime Friend

tiffanyoneverything — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:23:29 +0000

We all have at least one. Or, some of us unfortunate folk may have multiple sometime friends. Or, you maybe the sometime friend and don’t realize it. If you don’t know what a sometime friend is, let me explain with a series of scenarios (have you all caught on to the fact that i really like hypothetically situations)

If your “friend” only calls you to go out somewhere, so you can drive
If he/she doesn’t invite you out when she goes out with her/his other “friends”
If he/she asks for odd favors at odd moments, and you help her out
If you text your “friend” and don’t get a response until days later
If you invite your “friend” to events and he says he is going to be there and then he no-shows

Let me make something clear. A sometime friend is still a friend. If you are in a crisis and you ask for help and your friend is not there to help you (sometime or not) then that is not your friend. Your sometime friend can be there “sometimes” but must always be there when there is a serious situation like break-ups, marriages, birthdays, etc.

So, those of you that have a sometime friend and are unhappy with that, you can only blame yourself. Part of a friendship (which is true of any relationship) is telling you friend what you need from him/her and what you can give. If your Sometime has repeatedly stood you up at events and you haven’t said anything to him/her then you are reinforcing the behavior. They are going to do it again and again. If you want behavior to stop you have to ask your friend to stop or end the friendship.

Or, you’re like me and enjoy the sometime friend. I am a “sometime loner” so I enjoy my company and like myself. I can’t be joined at the hip with another female, I tried it and it ended horrible because I just told her I didn’t want to be friends anymore. So for some people the “sometime friend” is a good deal.

Do you have a sometime friend? or, are you one? What are some other characteristic of the “sometime friend”?

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Happy St. Patricks Day

tiffanyoneverything — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:10:55 +0000

Top of the morning to you, leprechaun. How about a pint of Guinness, a shot of Jameson and a shamrock. Okay, that was really wrong but in reality I love the Irish. When I was in Italy last year I met four Irish lads and after drinking Pilsner of beer for hours they became some of the best people I met. They even gave me an Irish soccer jersey (that one of them was wearing so it kinda smelled).

The Script is an Irish band and are one of my favorite. I saw them live at the Bowery Ballroom last summer and they are as amazing as the lead singer is gorgeous. They have been making the rounds at Jimmy Kimmel Live, Live with Regis and Kelly the past couple of days. Today they were on Today and they were again really good. So for those of you that don’t know who the script check out www.thescriptmusic.com

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What I did this weekend…

tiffanyoneverything — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 15:32:11 +0000

I went to my boyfriend’s frat brother’s birthday party. It was held at a club, D’or at the Dream Hotel. Check out the website: http://www.amalia-nyc.com/. It was fun, the DJ was just okay. It seemed sometimes he had trouble mixing tracks which I found very disappointing since he was using top of the line Pioneer equipment (I use to date a DJ). Nevertheless, he picked really good music and it kept me dancing. The birthday boy had a VIP table with plenty of bottles to get everyone tipsy. Here are a couple of pictures.

Sleeping with the Secretary

tiffanyoneverything — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 14:53:15 +0000

So you found out that the dude your are now in a relationship with use to have a “thing” with some other chicks prior to talking to you. Nothing to concerned yourself about, right? But what if, this other chick is an employee with his company? Does that make a difference in your level of concern?

Let’s fill in the details a little more: the prior chick and your guy was never in a relationship, they just had sex regularly. Your guy moved away to a different state and left the prior chick behind. Most likely, if he would not have left they would still be screwing. Now he is going back for business. Now what do you think?

Here is my take on the situation: Is there reason for discomfort about the situation. Hell yes! You should be a little uneasy about the fact that the girl your boyfriend was screwing prior to you will be within arms length of your guy. Add with the fact that they didn’t “end” on bad terms and they just so happened to work together.

But, I know this may sound cliché but he’s innocent until proven guilty. You have no right to assume that he is going to do something before he’s done it and then charge him with the crime (you all seen minority report). Instead, express your concern to him and tell him that it makes you uneasy. If he respects you and loves you, he will tell you what he can do to make you feel less uneasy about the situation.

Secondly, he choose you to be with him in a relationship. He didn’t just want to sleep with you. He’s not leaving at 3:00am in the morning. That means something. In all reality, if he wanted her he would be with her or he wouldn’t have started a relationship with someone else. He would have just found another “buddy” to play with. And he didn’t do that, so give him credit that he found the most amazing woman (you). And if he was smart enough to be with you than he’ll be smart enough not to do something to lose you.

Also, it would behoove you (don’t you love that word) to not put all your eggs in the “trust” basket. I believe you cannot be blinded by love in any relationship. I’m in no way implying to snoop around are accuse him of doing anything because that’ll put strain on your relationship. However, keep you eyes open. For example, if he leaves the room to answer a phone call or you notice that this other chick is calling him at 3:00 in the morning that should raise an eyebrow. I mean, that always make me look at my guy a little sideways.

Lastly, while he is away do something fun. Go out clubbin with your girlfriends, do some harmless flirting with a sexy guy and wear something a little too sexy. Also, relish in the fact that they girl he use to mess with before you is really ugly.

Please humor me with your comments.

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No Wifin’ in the Club

tiffanyoneverything — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 19:18:48 +0000

I have a boyfriend and he’s great. What I especially love about him is that we both like to have a good time and we can do it together without “wif’in’ in the club” because neither he nor I want to pay anybody 20 dollars. I know some couples dread being in the same club, bar, lounge, with their other half. The reason is it usually results in the following scenario:

Chick is hugging up on dude while he is trying to create distance between them.
Chick gets mad and then starts dancing with some other guy inappropriate
Dude tries to act like he doesn’t care and starts flirting it up with some other girl
Chick gets really mad and confronts dude while he is flirting with the other girl
Then they break-up.

That’s no fun and if that was a risk I had to face everything I went to the club with my guy I wouldn’t want him to show up either. But that’s no way to live. Instead if the guy and girl can abide by a few rules they can have a good time and those rules are as follow:

Have other people there each of you know. You should come together and leave together but once you’re there you can immediately go your own way to say hello to the people you know. This allows both of you to give each other space without any chance on conflict.
Frequently check up on each other. Not in an accusatory or cautionary way but in a caring and loving way. Meaning, Guys if you notice your girl glass is empty take her to the bar and buy her another drink. Now, you have a little one-on-one time. And Girls, when a hot sexy song comes on go ahead and rub your little booty on his thang-thang. He would be very appreciative. Now Girls, only dance with him for one song. Remember: give him space.
When it comes to dancing. Clearly differentiate between the way you dance with your mate and how you dance with other people. If you like to use your hands and rub on their body than don’t use your hands when dancing with anybody else. Girls: No bending over, dropping it like it’s hot etc. Guys: No bending girls over or letting them “freak” you.
Guys: your girl wants to make sure that everyone in that club knows you are with her. So you are going to need to show her a little affection. It’s simple and it won’t make you uncomfortable. Hold her face in your hands look at her for three seconds and give her a quick peck on the lips tell her to “go have fun” and when she walks away give her a light pat on the ass. Done.
Lastly, both of you would need to have a block of time (about 20 mins) or so just for the two of you. I suggest towards the end of the night, when the DJ plays the slow and old school joints.

Follow the rules and you can really have your girl or guy in the club and keep you money in your pocket! Love to hear you comments on this one.

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Tiger Tiger Woods Y’all

tiffanyoneverything — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 23:02:22 +0000

Don’t feel bamboozled, he fooled us all. When his infamous sexacapade first broke four months ago people blamed his non-immediate response on his PR team and publicist. They bashed him, said that he was hiding from the situation, that he wasn’t entitled to so much privacy and the public deserved an explanation. But this was always the plan.

He wanted all the speculations to build up, have everyone form their own opinion and then when everyone grew tired of the guessing game. He decided to speak. That was the first great move by his publicist. When Tiger was ready to speak, network television gave him all the time in the world. I actually missed The View that day, I was a little upset.

At his robotic press conference he said “I don’t know when I will return to golf, but I will golf again.” I was sure it wouldn’t be this year, and it definitely wouldn’t be this year’s Masters. And yet, after one week in sex rehab (the very idea of sex rehab is ridiculous) he returned to the practice course. What happened next was amazing.

The media started talking about golf again! At what tournament will he make his comeback? Arnold Palmer? Masters? He could win his fifth green jacket! On GMA this morning they only thing mentioned about Tiger’s scandal was that he had a scandal. “Four months after his car crash and resulting scandal, Tiger Woods has returned to golf” Lately, you and I both have been seeing pictures of Tiger with a golf club in his hand practicing his swing with his coach. His PR team deserves a standing ovation because they just about cleaned up Tiger’s nasty mess.

On another note, I personally think he should make his comeback at the Master’s for three reasons.

The Masters is the most prestigious and classy competition in golf meaning people won’t be acting a fool in there. So there will be minimal heckling by fans and strict rules for the media.
The Master’s already draws huge media attention when Tiger plays, imagine that being doubled. This is a win-win for both sides.
If he wins it, he returns to dominance and everyone will forget about the past (just like we do with all winners).

I just want all of you to pay attention to what Tiger is doing because trust it is all calculated and scripted. His team, which now includes Bush and McGwire’s former image rebuilder Ari Fleischer, is on the prowl to make Tiger king again.

Jack (from Will and Grace) and that chick that sang “Alone” on Glee

tiffanyoneverything — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 22:09:01 +0000

Actually, their names are Sean Hayes and Kristin Chenoweth. They are starring in a new Broadway musical Promises, Promises this month…Pick up this week Time Out New York for the deets.

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I die…

tiffanyoneverything — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:24:20 +0000

I die for MAC Lipglass in Viva Glam VI. It is so versatile. It works great over most lipsticks, or wear it alone. Yes it’s great when you are all “glammed” up but it is so perfect with jeans and a tee. This is a limited edition Lipglass so I picked up 5 of them.

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How this works…

tiffanyoneverything — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:13:00 +0000

The rules are simple. I write what I want. You comment or not comment. Repeat.

I will write about everything. Sometimes it would be a random thought, politics, entertainment, music, sports, etc. Somedays I will not feel like writing and will upload a video of me talking, or someone else talking. Enjoy.

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